Yes, here it is. Another blog about New Year’s Resolutions. Why do we feel strongest about setting goals at the beginning of a new year? Why when our new year’s resolutions go off the rails do we feel like we have failed and we throw in the towel? How can we make this the year we actually make progress towards our goals?
First of all, I believe that most people set unattainable, pie-in-the-sky goals for their new year’s resolutions. These people are destined for failure just by the sheer nature and out-of-reach status of their goals. Don’t get me wrong. I am all for a “stretch goal”. I live by the phrase “shoot for the moon and even if you miss you are still amongst the stars”. However, I also know how reality will quickly derail even the best of intentions. So my first suggestion is to set a realistic, attainable and measurable goal. If you reach your original goal, set a new goal. There is nothing wrong with that.
Next, make sure the goal is something YOU want and you are not doing something to please others. Losing weight in order to make a spouse or boyfriend happy is not going to fuel your fire every day to take the necessary actions to make that happen. One of my goals is to tithe each week this year. I am not doing this for anyone other than me and my relationship with the Lord. I am going to set it up by automatic draft, in addition, since I travel frequently and miss services many Sundays.
Finally, if you find yourself sliding off the rails, don’t fret. Pick yourself off, dust yourself off and start tomorrow fresh. Everyone fails. Even the most successful people on the earth have experienced failure. The difference between success and failure is the ability to pick yourself up and start again. You must learn from your mistakes and plow forward. Rome wasn’t built in a day and you will not reach your goals in day.
Another favorite quote of mine is “Behold the turtle who makes progress only when he sticks his neck out”. Sometimes you will be the turtle. Stick your neck out and keep moving.